Three Effective Ways to Overcome the Fear of Change
By Corinne Lor













Are you uncomfortable with change
or perhaps even afraid of change?
Many people, or more precisely, many adults are. Think back to the elementary school
days. Were you excited about meeting new friends, new teachers and learning new
subjects with each new school year?

When you were young, you did not resist change. You anticipated change. You
anticipated growth. But many adults do not look forward to getting new jobs,
switching careers or relocating to a new city. I wonder when people decide they have
reached the point where they want things around them to stay the same.

Recognize that change is an unchanging truth. Intentional or not, your life is always
changing. Look back one year ago or even 10, 20 and 30 years ago, how has your life
changed? You have finished school. You have started a career. Maybe you have started
a family also.

How about the people around you, how have they changed? Have you lived in
different places? I am sure you would notice lots of changes over the years. Yet, many
people still have a strong tendency to resist change.

If you are among those who fear changes, here are three effective ways to help you
overcome that fear:

"Feel the fear and do it anyway."

Everyone has a comfort zone. Your fear is a warning that you are about to step outside
of your comfort area. If it is your intention to do something different from what you are
accustomed to, then your fear is a welcoming signal. Your comfort zone will grow each
time you venture outside of it.

Remember the first time you drove and you were not even sure how to do it on an
empty road? How about the first time you drove on the expressway? How about now?
Do you sometimes find yourself driving with one hand on the steering wheel and the
other hand fumbling on the music player searching for your favorite song while
talking to your friend sitting beside you? Rather than let you fear hold you back,
embrace the opportunity to grow. Keep practicing until it becomes second nature to
you.

Focus on your goal.

The anticipation of pain is one of the main causes of fear. Do you realize that a lot of
this pain resides only in your imagination. Have you ever had an experience where
taking the fearful action is not nearly as terrifying an experience as you imagined it to
be? It could be your first time performing on stage or it could be your first job
interview.

To allay your fear, set your goal and understand why achieving this goal is important
for you. Make a decision to do it and commit to it. Focus on your goal and it will help
to keep your fear at bay.

Identify the benefits of change.

When a person associates change with loss, it can be difficult. A caterpillar will never
become a butterfly if it is so attached to its identity that it refuses to morph. What
benefits will you gain from making that change? Will you lose anything as a result? Is
it a true loss or a perceived loss? Many people are hard hit by the prospect of a job
loss, retirement, relocation or family changes. It is true these situations could be
emotionally taxing but as a result may open up opportunities for something better.

Recognize that you are not alone feeling the fear of change. Join some support groups
if you need emotional support. Recruit the help of mentors or coaches to help you gain
an independent perspective and learn from their experiences so you can have a
smooth or even fun transition.

About the author: Corinne Lor is a success coach who works with dissatisfied business
professionals and people in transition, helping them realign their personal resources to meet
multiple work and personal demands while having the joy of rediscovering their personal lives.
Corinne Lor provides private individual sessions and group workshops through business
enterprises. For more information, see:
Create Your Life Portfolio

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Three Effective Ways to Overcome the Fear of Change
By Corinne Lor













Are you uncomfortable with change
or perhaps even afraid of change?
Many people, or more precisely, many adults are. Think back to the elementary school
days. Were you excited about meeting new friends, new teachers and learning new
subjects with each new school year?

When you were young, you did not resist change. You anticipated change. You
anticipated growth. But many adults do not look forward to getting new jobs,
switching careers or relocating to a new city. I wonder when people decide they have
reached the point where they want things around them to stay the same.

Recognize that change is an unchanging truth. Intentional or not, your life is always
changing. Look back one year ago or even 10, 20 and 30 years ago, how has your life
changed? You have finished school. You have started a career. Maybe you have started
a family also.

How about the people around you, how have they changed? Have you lived in
different places? I am sure you would notice lots of changes over the years. Yet, many
people still have a strong tendency to resist change.

If you are among those who fear changes, here are three effective ways to help you
overcome that fear:

"Feel the fear and do it anyway."

Everyone has a comfort zone. Your fear is a warning that you are about to step outside
of your comfort area. If it is your intention to do something different from what you are
accustomed to, then your fear is a welcoming signal. Your comfort zone will grow each
time you venture outside of it.

Remember the first time you drove and you were not even sure how to do it on an
empty road? How about the first time you drove on the expressway? How about now?
Do you sometimes find yourself driving with one hand on the steering wheel and the
other hand fumbling on the music player searching for your favorite song while
talking to your friend sitting beside you? Rather than let you fear hold you back,
embrace the opportunity to grow. Keep practicing until it becomes second nature to
you.

Focus on your goal.

The anticipation of pain is one of the main causes of fear. Do you realize that a lot of
this pain resides only in your imagination. Have you ever had an experience where
taking the fearful action is not nearly as terrifying an experience as you imagined it to
be? It could be your first time performing on stage or it could be your first job
interview.

To allay your fear, set your goal and understand why achieving this goal is important
for you. Make a decision to do it and commit to it. Focus on your goal and it will help
to keep your fear at bay.

Identify the benefits of change.

When a person associates change with loss, it can be difficult. A caterpillar will never
become a butterfly if it is so attached to its identity that it refuses to morph. What
benefits will you gain from making that change? Will you lose anything as a result? Is
it a true loss or a perceived loss? Many people are hard hit by the prospect of a job
loss, retirement, relocation or family changes. It is true these situations could be
emotionally taxing but as a result may open up opportunities for something better.

Recognize that you are not alone feeling the fear of change. Join some support groups
if you need emotional support. Recruit the help of mentors or coaches to help you gain
an independent perspective and learn from their experiences so you can have a
smooth or even fun transition.

About the author: Corinne Lor is a success coach who works with dissatisfied business
professionals and people in transition, helping them realign their personal resources to meet
multiple work and personal demands while having the joy of rediscovering their personal lives.
Corinne Lor provides private individual sessions and group workshops through business
enterprises. For more information, see:
Create Your Life Portfolio
Three Effective Ways to Overcome the Fear of Change
By Corinne Lor













Are you uncomfortable with change
or perhaps even afraid of change?
Many people, or more precisely, many adults are. Think back to the elementary school
days. Were you excited about meeting new friends, new teachers and learning new
subjects with each new school year?

When you were young, you did not resist change. You anticipated change. You
anticipated growth. But many adults do not look forward to getting new jobs,
switching careers or relocating to a new city. I wonder when people decide they have
reached the point where they want things around them to stay the same.

Recognize that change is an unchanging truth. Intentional or not, your life is always
changing. Look back one year ago or even 10, 20 and 30 years ago, how has your life
changed? You have finished school. You have started a career. Maybe you have started
a family also.

How about the people around you, how have they changed? Have you lived in
different places? I am sure you would notice lots of changes over the years. Yet, many
people still have a strong tendency to resist change.

If you are among those who fear changes, here are three effective ways to help you
overcome that fear:

"Feel the fear and do it anyway."

Everyone has a comfort zone. Your fear is a warning that you are about to step outside
of your comfort area. If it is your intention to do something different from what you are
accustomed to, then your fear is a welcoming signal. Your comfort zone will grow each
time you venture outside of it.

Remember the first time you drove and you were not even sure how to do it on an
empty road? How about the first time you drove on the expressway? How about now?
Do you sometimes find yourself driving with one hand on the steering wheel and the
other hand fumbling on the music player searching for your favorite song while
talking to your friend sitting beside you? Rather than let you fear hold you back,
embrace the opportunity to grow. Keep practicing until it becomes second nature to
you.

Focus on your goal.

The anticipation of pain is one of the main causes of fear. Do you realize that a lot of
this pain resides only in your imagination. Have you ever had an experience where
taking the fearful action is not nearly as terrifying an experience as you imagined it to
be? It could be your first time performing on stage or it could be your first job
interview.

To allay your fear, set your goal and understand why achieving this goal is important
for you. Make a decision to do it and commit to it. Focus on your goal and it will help
to keep your fear at bay.