Top 3 Creative Sinkholes
By Valery Satterwhite
In my conversations with artists, actors,
writers, singers and musicians I've noticed
a pattern of three 'sinkholes' that suck the creative energy right out of a person.
There are various nuances and sub-categories within the top three but for the sake of
brevity I've sorted the big energy drainers into the following three funnels:
1. Living a Conditioned, Nurtured Life
"Man is the only creature who refuses to be what he is." - Albert Camus
Wherever you struggle in life; in your career, your finances, or in your personal and
professional relationships is where you are living through your nurture instead of
your true nature.
Dr. Jekyll (of Jekyll and Hyde fame) said, "you drink a few glasses of whiskey, and see
if your behavior doesn't change." While this is a slight hyperbole, I think it makes the
point rather well. The whiskey you've been drinking, is the should-do, should-be and
supposed to beliefs and choices you have consumed throughout your life.
Your nature is your natural traits, temperaments, preferences and talents that you were
born with. Your nurture is based on what you've been exposed to and something that
shapes who you choose to become, often unconsciously. You've shaped yourself so
much to adapt to what you think you should be and how you are supposed to act that
you've forgotten or push aside who you really are.
"The mass of men lead lives of quiet ... of quiet desperation, and go the grave with the song still in
them." - Henry David Thoreau
Living through your Nurture is exhausting! Living in-authentically takes a lot of extra
work. You can get really good at living your should-be/should-do life and become a
great success. However, that life will leave you tired and unfulfilled. You will feel
like something is missing or hold thoughts of still not knowing who you want to be
when you "grow up."
Living through your Nature, living authentically, is exhilarating! Your work energizes
you rather than depletes you. You are often 'in the zone' present, willing and available
for whatever comes next. The day flies by as you have little sense of time.
While it's true that you will have to do things even in an authentic life that are not your
nature. However your approach to do such "unnatural" things will be from a position
of authenticity.
2. Fear of Greatness
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond
measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us." - Marianne Williamson
Fear of greatness, fear of success is most often misnamed as a fear of failure. Your
innermost self simply will not allow you to completely think that you are the mediocre
or inept talent that your Inner Critic says you are.
This higher self, soul or what I playfully call the Wizard Within knows you are born
with the power and talent to achieve greatness. Greatness comes with vast
responsibility.
What if you couldn't handle all of that responsibility? Your life would completely
change and some of that change is frightening. You may have to make public
appearances, you may no longer have time to spend with your loved ones, or be
pressured to stay upon the mantle of greatness by delivering even more greatness.
For many, a position of greatness is akin to living a nightmare. It is impossible to
generate energy to create what you believe to be a frightening existence.
3. Tolerations -- avoidance
"Part of every misery is, so to speak, the misery's shadow or reflection: the fact that you don't
merely suffer but have to keep on thinking about the fact that you suffer. I not only live each
endless day in grief, but live each day thinking about living each day in grief." - C.S. Lewis
To tolerate is to put up with something or somebody unpleasant. Tolerations are
events, people, situations you put up with that drain your energy, that keep you from
living authentically and enjoying life to the fullest. Your tolerations distract you from
engaging in what you love to do. Tolerations can be found in any area of life; your
office or studio, relationships, the tools you use, your appearance, your finances or
lack thereof and state of being.
In a nutshell, tolerations are things or experiences that you have in your life that you
do not want. Tolerations are life clutter. To diminish the tolerations that drain your
creative energy flow you have to feng shui your life.
Clean up your clutter; literally and metaphorically. Construct free and easy energy
flow passages. Begin by cleaning up the physical clutter in your life such as in your
workspace and home.
Then move on to cleaning up the clutter in your financial circumstances and then clean
up the clutter in your professional and personal relationships. Get rid of what is no
longer wanted or transform what you want to keep, say a relationship with a family
member that is now "messy". Let go of whatever is messing up the relationship,
perhaps an expectation of some sort, and find common ground to change the energy
you have around your relationship with that family member.
As you go through your days pay attention to what drains your energy. Where you are
inauthentic, express authentically. Where you hold yourself back, take one step
forward. Where you tolerate, clean up the clutter by throwing out, completing or
changing the energy around the relationship you have with the item or person.
"Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is
that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death." - Anais Nin
About the author: Valery is a Creative Mentor who specializes in empowering people to create
more passionately, profoundly, productively & profitably. Learn how to trust your intuition,
acknowledge your truth, and disarm your fear & self-doubt. Valery developed a proven unique
"Inner Wizard" methodology to empower the Wizard Within to actualize and express your full
creative potential. Subscribe today: Free "Empower the Wizard Within tips"!
By Valery Satterwhite
In my conversations with artists, actors,
writers, singers and musicians I've noticed
a pattern of three 'sinkholes' that suck the creative energy right out of a person.
There are various nuances and sub-categories within the top three but for the sake of
brevity I've sorted the big energy drainers into the following three funnels:
1. Living a Conditioned, Nurtured Life
"Man is the only creature who refuses to be what he is." - Albert Camus
Wherever you struggle in life; in your career, your finances, or in your personal and
professional relationships is where you are living through your nurture instead of
your true nature.
Dr. Jekyll (of Jekyll and Hyde fame) said, "you drink a few glasses of whiskey, and see
if your behavior doesn't change." While this is a slight hyperbole, I think it makes the
point rather well. The whiskey you've been drinking, is the should-do, should-be and
supposed to beliefs and choices you have consumed throughout your life.
Your nature is your natural traits, temperaments, preferences and talents that you were
born with. Your nurture is based on what you've been exposed to and something that
shapes who you choose to become, often unconsciously. You've shaped yourself so
much to adapt to what you think you should be and how you are supposed to act that
you've forgotten or push aside who you really are.
"The mass of men lead lives of quiet ... of quiet desperation, and go the grave with the song still in
them." - Henry David Thoreau
Living through your Nurture is exhausting! Living in-authentically takes a lot of extra
work. You can get really good at living your should-be/should-do life and become a
great success. However, that life will leave you tired and unfulfilled. You will feel
like something is missing or hold thoughts of still not knowing who you want to be
when you "grow up."
Living through your Nature, living authentically, is exhilarating! Your work energizes
you rather than depletes you. You are often 'in the zone' present, willing and available
for whatever comes next. The day flies by as you have little sense of time.
While it's true that you will have to do things even in an authentic life that are not your
nature. However your approach to do such "unnatural" things will be from a position
of authenticity.
2. Fear of Greatness
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond
measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us." - Marianne Williamson
Fear of greatness, fear of success is most often misnamed as a fear of failure. Your
innermost self simply will not allow you to completely think that you are the mediocre
or inept talent that your Inner Critic says you are.
This higher self, soul or what I playfully call the Wizard Within knows you are born
with the power and talent to achieve greatness. Greatness comes with vast
responsibility.
What if you couldn't handle all of that responsibility? Your life would completely
change and some of that change is frightening. You may have to make public
appearances, you may no longer have time to spend with your loved ones, or be
pressured to stay upon the mantle of greatness by delivering even more greatness.
For many, a position of greatness is akin to living a nightmare. It is impossible to
generate energy to create what you believe to be a frightening existence.
3. Tolerations -- avoidance
"Part of every misery is, so to speak, the misery's shadow or reflection: the fact that you don't
merely suffer but have to keep on thinking about the fact that you suffer. I not only live each
endless day in grief, but live each day thinking about living each day in grief." - C.S. Lewis
To tolerate is to put up with something or somebody unpleasant. Tolerations are
events, people, situations you put up with that drain your energy, that keep you from
living authentically and enjoying life to the fullest. Your tolerations distract you from
engaging in what you love to do. Tolerations can be found in any area of life; your
office or studio, relationships, the tools you use, your appearance, your finances or
lack thereof and state of being.
In a nutshell, tolerations are things or experiences that you have in your life that you
do not want. Tolerations are life clutter. To diminish the tolerations that drain your
creative energy flow you have to feng shui your life.
Clean up your clutter; literally and metaphorically. Construct free and easy energy
flow passages. Begin by cleaning up the physical clutter in your life such as in your
workspace and home.
Then move on to cleaning up the clutter in your financial circumstances and then clean
up the clutter in your professional and personal relationships. Get rid of what is no
longer wanted or transform what you want to keep, say a relationship with a family
member that is now "messy". Let go of whatever is messing up the relationship,
perhaps an expectation of some sort, and find common ground to change the energy
you have around your relationship with that family member.
As you go through your days pay attention to what drains your energy. Where you are
inauthentic, express authentically. Where you hold yourself back, take one step
forward. Where you tolerate, clean up the clutter by throwing out, completing or
changing the energy around the relationship you have with the item or person.
"Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is
that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death." - Anais Nin
About the author: Valery is a Creative Mentor who specializes in empowering people to create
more passionately, profoundly, productively & profitably. Learn how to trust your intuition,
acknowledge your truth, and disarm your fear & self-doubt. Valery developed a proven unique
"Inner Wizard" methodology to empower the Wizard Within to actualize and express your full
creative potential. Subscribe today: Free "Empower the Wizard Within tips"!
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